You Are Not Alone
Anxiety is at epidemic proportions in the United States. Many people have at least a low level of harming anxiety. When anxiety interferes with happiness and a plentiful life, it needs to be treated. Here are some options:
Many people don't like medications and resist taking them but here's the deal. If you had diabetes, would you argue about taking insulin? Much of anxiety is comprised of an imbalance of your brain enzymes. There's nothing shameful or unusual about that. Nobody has the perfect mix of brain chemistry. Everybody has some level of imbalance. People with anxiety issues often suffer from overactive serotonin regulation called reuptake. If your little sensors in the brain act like little sponges and deny your brain of a good level of serotonin, you will suffer anxiety and then, possibly depression. Nobody caused that. It is just your DNA and the neural connections of your brain. So---consider medications. At least think of them with an open mind.
Cognitive Behavior Therapy
This form of talk therapy helps you reconsider things that are bothering you about life or yourself. When you fall into a pattern of being overly worried and concerned, you create a cycle of anxiety that can lead to depression and back to anxiety and---well---its not fun.
CBT, as it is known, is highly-effective in helping people to rebuild positive programming into that wonderful computer known as the human brain. When negativity and worry harm the neural connections of the brain, you need to basically defragment your brain. As worry leads you to "fill in the blanks" about life's happenings and cause you even more worry, you can change what fills in those blanks with positive self-thought and encouragement from others.
What is grief ?
Many feel grief is a form of depression but it is another form of anxiety. Fear, uncertainty, anger and doubt about divine love spark the flight or fight response in humans. Flight would be hiding and grieving alone. Fight would be anger toward others, even the deceased, and God.
The grieving process
Letting grief grip your life is not a good way to remember a loved one. If you believe in life after death, then how you see the eternal life of your loved one should be joyful. Understanding you will be with them, eventually, should be comforting. However, getting beyond the tremendous anxiety of loss may take time; extensive reflection and the coaching of a dedicated and experienced counselor.
One of the most challenging areas of counseling is helping a person who has lost a loved one. Anger and resentment may be present. Guilt, fear and other emotions may be involved. This is where a more spiritual and thoughtful approach may provide some relief and understanding. Talking with a Christian Counselor can truly help.